Sexual Behavior
Sexual skills within a partnership are an important part of sexual therapy.
In the final episode of Friends, Rachel and Ross sleep together after breaking
up years before and she commented: "Boy have you been practicing!!" Ross replied
that he was given a Dummy for Sex book as a gag at work. "Now who's laughing!"
he exclaimed.
Way back in the days of Masters and Johnson in the mid-seventies, most thought
that people with sexual problems needing psychological therapy. These days we
have discovered that there is a physical cause usually treatable 50 percent of
the time. Along comes Viagra and people who would be in sexual therapy just suddenly
have a 4 hour erection and all is better. This occurs at least until the underlying
situation that originally caused the previous behavior returns.
A common example of this is if a man has an issue with maintaining an erection,
the female partner may experience feelings of rejection. This can be augmented
into seriously negative self- image perception which can persist long after he
fixes his "problem" with Viagra.
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With the proper sexual therapy this cyclical scenario can be nipped in the bud;
long before apathy and dejection set in. Another situation may occur where the
male isn't able to assist his partner to achieve orgasm. To remedy this seeming
inadequacy, he will sometimes avoid the act of intercourse all together creating
diversions or changing his focus to oral stimulation. This may be done to re-establish
his sexual prowess and reinforce his ego.
In the end, he only removes one important aspect of their up close and personal time.
This is where proper sexual therapy could really create a safe space for the couple
to express what is important to each of them.
A really important aspect to recognize when sexual therapy is utilized is damaged
trust and intimacy. This is the underlying theme for far too many couples and singles
as well.
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